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Advocating for Writers in the Upper Peninsula

I have a new role model: Alison Watson, the director of the Michigan Arts and Culture Council (MACC). Alison calls herself “scrappy,” and she has a powerful voice that she is not afraid to use. She’s an advocate for Michigan artists and believes in the arts and the good it does. She’s a knowledgable, fun presenter with sensible humor and just the right amount of edge to keep things interesting. She began her address with her childhood, telling us how she got into the creative arts, because this matters—where you begin matters.

So where did my creativity begin? It’s probably somewhere deep in my childhood, where I spent a lot of time on my own, trying to keep myself entertained, especially at my dad’s house on weekends. I started my own games, played in the junkyard (that is a story for another day!), and talked to myself a lot. I felt like I had no one else to talk to. I could easily have become a “bad kid”–I’d already stolen a push-pop from the grocery store and set a box on fire in our backyard! But somehow, I got into books. My dad was a reader, obsessed with Clive Cussler, and we went to the library frequently. I began with My Side of the Mountain, and Julie of the Wolves and Island of the Blue Dolphins. Books where kids on their own survived just fine without other humans—for the most part. They got me through my childhood and teen years by giving me a friend I could connect with; yes, a fictional friend, but a friend nonetheless.

While I was reading, I wanted to start an animal shelter, so I wrote a book and drew pictures about how to start one, and I began gathering scrap metal and wood from the junkyard. Then I wanted to be a vet, because Dad said I couldn’t make a living with a shelter. Then I wanted to be a singer, so my dad got me a karaoke machine, and I sang all the time. Then I wanted to be an author, because the thing about writing is you get to learn everything and write about those things! That last bit hasn’t changed. My greatest weakness is being too interested in a million different things.

Alison advocates for herself, her son, and artists. What have I done? If writing is my passion, my oxygen, the thing that keeps me going, then what have I done to advocate for other writers? After more than two years complaining that the Upper Peninsula doesn’t have an involved writing organization, I’ve decided that it’s time to create opportunity where an opening exists: I am beginning the path to starting a writing organization where I’m at. I am putting my ideas out there publicly hoping that professional and beginning writers will share their interest with me and others.

I ran a weekly write-in for about six months earlier this year, and now I’m working with a group of women to unblock our creativity. What’s next? A meeting to establish a write-in and workshopping group on Saturday, October 12th at The Crib. Take the first step to meet other writers and will-be writers and get your pen to paper. Once you start writing you are a writer.

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Post-Teenage Renaissance In Western Massachusetts

Art in Turner’s Falls

I lived in three towns in western Massachusetts during undergrad. This is where I fell in love with solitude and hiking. It’s where I met people doing things that no one in my community had ever done—poly, art as a lifestyle, goth dancing, and daily Paganism. I discovered the Durfee Conservatory, a greenhouse filled with plants from different climates: a hot humid room, a cold humid room, a dry cool room, a dry hot room.

Hike up Mount Holyoke to Skinner State Park

Free from social constraints and obligations, I hiked up to Skinner State Park, participated in a free tour, and took notes. Then I drove to a farm stand that still exists and got a cupcake and tried to figure out what a story is, brainstorming on paper. At the Montague Book Mill I found a book called Tramping,” and a couple books about nature. The tramping book worked itself into a writing exercise, where I started to write about my tramping lifestyle as I begin van life.

Montague Book Mill in Montague, Ma.

I was a little panicked about camping, because the campgrounds out here suck (KOA charges $50/night PLUS taxes for a tent site, the small places don’t answer the phone, and there are no Hipcamps or campendiums or national forest land out here). I tried thinking outside the box. Maybe I could sleep in the Mount Skinner parking lot, as long as I got there after 10, and left before 6 am. And then I remembered Yankee Candle. I gave them a call and they said if course I could camp in their lot! So here I am, set up in my rig, nighttime falling, listening to cicadas and crickets and traffic on the not-so-distant highway.

I can’t wait to get back to my virtual assistant business tomorrow. I can go to the library, or Yankee candle, or just sit in my car and use my hotspot for internet and house batteries for power. I can turn off the volume on my phone and focus on what needs doing.

Finally, I have my own space. I don’t feel trapped anymore.

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How NOT to Write a Memoir

We all have goals that we want to reach in our writing, especially memoirists. There have been times when I want to write about ex-boyfriends because they treated me awful, or because they were so perfect, and always—always!—my writing group would ask me, “But what’s beneath this? What is this really about?” And I would whine and say they didn’t understand, but at the same time I would write into it until I figured it out. It was always about me and how I work, or it was about the relationship I have with my parents or siblings or friends; or it was about how easy it is for me to have a short, passionate, surface-level relationship than it ever has been to sustain a deep and long-term one.

Image result for the feminist and the cowboyThere are ways to guide your memoir, to nurture it, and there are also some things you should avoid. I recently read the memoir The Feminist and the Cowboy, by Alisa Valdes, because I loved the title and the contradictions and it also sounded like it could be an interesting story. Parts of it were great and eye opening, but other parts annoyed me (as my boyfriend can attest to, since I told him about it every night). So here are some ways not to write a memoir, as learned from this text.

  1. Labels. Examples: My parents are narcissists. All liberals think this, and all conservatives think that. Feminism stole my womanhood.

When you start out a memoir with labels, you probably have an agenda. I don’t think it’s bad for a writer to have an agenda, but if you start out with one, then how can you expect to reach the truth? I thought my stories were about boys, when really they were about family. If I had followed my gut, my stories would have fallen flat because they had yet to reach their full potential. For most of us, an essay is about meandering through our experiences in order to find what feels most right. Slapping a label on a feeling you have will never allow it to reach absolute truth.

  1. Rose-colored glasses. Example: My boyfriend is perfect and I wrote this while we were dating.

If you think your boyfriend is perfect and you only met him a few months ago, it probably isn’t the best time to start a memoir about your relationship with him. As a journalist, I can attest that people put on smiles and tell you all about how great they are when you first start talking to them. It can take dozens of interviews before you get to hear about their truest feelings, jealousies and desires, the stuff they don’t want to tell everyone. The same thing happens in a romantic relationship, which is why it’s best to give it some time; a few years, maybe.

  1. Let just one person read it. Example: My boyfriend read over this memoir before publication.

In her memoir, Valdes tells us more than once that the Cowboy leaned over her shoulder while she was writing, but she never mentioned showing it to anyone else in her life. (This memoir is probably more about seclusion and abuse than it is about romance, but we’re going to stick to how not to write a memoir for now.) It is a great idea to let those you’re writing about read your work. You want to gauge their reactions and maybe get permission before the lawsuits come pouring in. You also want to get their side of things, unless it’s a really horrific incident that you just can’t even talk to them about. But I’m not sure the author showed this book to anyone other than the cowboy, which makes a lot of sense because the other people in her life (including herself) sound selfish and annoying, whereas the Cowboy is the only person with any logic and humanity whatsoever.

In the end, here’s my advice if you want to write a memoir, whether it’s essay-length or book-length: Move past labels to get to a deeper and sometimes more complex truth; give the situation some time to breathe so you don’t dive in when everything is perfect and beautiful, because this is a dangerous time to be writing; and if you’re going to let anyone read your memoir before publication, make sure you bring in more than just the one person you’re in love with.

Image result for compassionFurther words of wisdom: I’ve been told many times that the writer should be the only person to look like an asshole. This means that you should make your very best effort to identify the good qualities of your nemesis, or family members who make you angry; don’t just identify their faults as you see them, but seek out their strengths as well. A compassionate writer will get closer to the truth and is less likely to be sued.

If you have anything to add, please do so below. I’d love to hear your ideas and experiences!

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